Society says otherwise.
During this rant, I'll share some of my favorite reasons "WHY" I have to have a child.
Don't get me wrong, having a child can be the greatest thing that can happen to a person. Many friends of mine dream about the thought of one day raising their own son or daughter, lots are so glad that they had a baby. I know other friends of mine, including myself, wouldn't even consider having a child right now or in the future. There is no right or wrong answer. It is just a decision. And it is your decision.
"You'll change your mind one day." Heard that more times than I can count. I know plenty of women going into their forties still being told that their mind will change. Probably not. It's okay World, her life will be just as fulfilled as anyone else who does have children. Sure, a lot changes in your twenties, but you know yourself better than anyone. You've more than likely already thought to yourself what you would do if you ended up having a child. Something probably like, "Even if I don't really want one, if I have one, I'd still love it just the same." or something like, "Not an option, not going to happen." Either way, once again, your decision.
"You'll miss out on the greatest part of life!" Not necessarily true. There are more than enough reasons why people would assume that children are the greatest part of your life. My mom would say that. She has said that. Why? Because she had children, and that is the best part of her life. I'm glad it is; where would I be if it wasn't? There are some things you will miss out on by not raising a child, but there are just as many great, beautiful things out there that are worth doing. For instance, I have a friend who moved to Chile for a year, next year she is moving to Norway for two years, then going to Liverpool for another two years. She isn't planning on having kids right now or in the future, traveling to as many places as possible is her dream. She is doing what makes her life feel whole and complete and did not need a child to do so.
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"That's not fair to your partner/family." Alrighty. Well.. I am assuming if you are in a serious relationship with someone this has already come up in conversation. Problem resolved. If it hasn't, it probably should at some point. Luckily for me, it wasn't an issue. He had his reasons why as well as I. We are content with our little Steve. (our dog that you will hear a lot about.)
Now the family part. I hear from lots of my friends that their families, mine included as well, have always pressured them that they NEED to have children, that they want grandkids, that they have to carry on the family name, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Basically, not important. If you did everything in life that your family wanted you to do, you'd be miserable and lost in life. It is your life, your decision.
Aaaaaand my personal favorite:
"You're a woman, it's your job!!" Don't even get me started. It is 2015. I have nothing else to say to this.
Really all that matters in life is that you are happy and content with the decisions you have made and the things you have learned about yourself and the world around you. The rest will fall into place.
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There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have children.
There is nothing wrong with having children.
You are your own person.
You are a beautiful, fascinating being either way.
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